Summer Makeup: Melt Proof Your Makeup in 3 steps.

Spring greetings doll babies!

It’s beginning to feel a lot like Summer and one question I always encounter around this time of the year is: How do I get my makeup to stay on in all this heat? Good question! No easy answers. Let’s just say that there are only a few ways around the face meltdown. One is staying inside and we’re going to cover 3 of the other’s here.

Melting Faces

Let’s jump right into it shall we….

#1 SUNSCREEN

If your Primer, BB Cream, and or Foundation aren’t SPF inclusive…you’re on the fast track to heartache by heat.  While this ingredient isn’t as important during your winter/fall makeup routine, Spring and Summer faces need more protection from these disrespectful and unrelenting UV Rays. Now this isn’t just a beauty tip. This is a health tip as well. Skin cancer is real and the ultraviolet rays from the sun and tanning beds are fighting for the #1 stop of skin cancer causes.

Here are a few of my client’s SPF foundation favorites.

hello-flawless-oxygen-wow-hero_smBenefit’s Hello Flawless Oxygen Wow Brightening makeup is perfect for summer months and one of my dolls favs for two reasons. 1st and most apparently, because of the Broad Spectrum SPF 25 included in the product. Secondly but just as important….it’s oil-free. One of the things foundations and other face creams include that they don’t rave about…is oil. That isn’t a horrible thing for people with ultra dry skin. Or even people with normal skin in the winter months. However, even dryer skin that is warmed up by the sun and “moisturized” with perspiration will find it’s own natural oils.

This particular foundation is $36.00. It is available in 10 shades with the fairest being Ivory-Believe In Me and the deepest being Nutmeg-Gotta Know Me.

Next up:

Colorescience

Colorescience is one of the most skin health conscience makeup brands I’ve come across to date. With that being said….I’m really excited but not surprised that their Sunforgettable Brush on Sunscreen SPF 50 Face powder was recognized as last year’s best beauty buy by Instyle Magazine. It’s also recommended for daily use by the skin cancer foundation  PLUS it was New Beauty’s Beauty Choice Award product winner. You can wear this product alone for a sheer protective coverage or on top of your foundation/BB cream as an extra protective layer.

It costs $64 BUT it’s said to be a 3 month supply of protection perfection in one container. There are only 4 shades: Fair-Medium-Tan-Deep. Which either makes it easier to choose or harder to find your shade.

Moving on…

Black Opal

This is one of the more affordable options for sun blocking beauty.  At $9.99  the Black Opal True Color Stick foundation sticks are a beauty arsenal must have. And not just because they’re affordable. Although that is 60% of the reason in all honesty. Aside from the fact that you’ll get change back from your $20 when purchasing, the pore blurring formula is SPF 15. Self Magazine has named it one of 3 best selling drugstore beauty products of all time… and you wanna know why? Well, I’m going to tell you why..so I hope you wanna know. It’s because with  16 full coverage shades ranging from cool nude to ebony brown,  it’s definitely an “every girl” product because you’re sure to find your perfect shade. Lastly, another factor that puts it sky high on the coin friendly list is that it’s multi-purposed!

You know how I feel about affordable multi purposed full coverage foundations!

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Rita gets it. Contour, highlight, full coverage application…all in one product. That’s what I call kit candy!

HERE’S WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT FACE PRODUCTS WITH SPF IN THEM……..when photographed in darker places where the light is not natural light but the camera’s flash there is a 95% chance that outcome is going to be the dreaded zombie face. You know where your face looks an ungodly shade of light gray and your eyes glow a bit green? Yeah so, to avoid this horrible happenstance,  I suggest you add SPF products to your daytime makeup routine and use natural light for photos during the day. At night, at highly photographed events etc. Ditch the sunscreen and quite literally save face in your photos.

#2 Shine Control.

Now that we’ve gotten the “foundation” of the application out of the way, next comes shine control. There are honestly a ton of products that claim to control your oils, allows your makeup last for 48 hours or longer, etc. etc. Honestly, in my years as a professional I haven’t found any quick fix solutions to summer oils. Unless you’re a plastic doll, you’re gonna sweat and you’re going to be oily. The amount of oil would of course depend on your skin type. Regardless of skin type my advice for shine control is blotting paper and translucent powders.

E.L.F happens to have a few super affordable options which I’ll list for you below. BUT if you want the #1 selling Drugstore brand blotting paper visit Neutrogena.

Elf Shine Eraser

I’ll start off by saying that these bad boys are only $1.00. I honestly haven’t tried the blotting papers but at $1.00 it doesn’t hurt your pockets to try them out for yourself. The green tea extract infused Shine Eraser blotting sheets come 30 in a pack and are said to:

“…instantly absorb oil, minimize pores and transforms shiny skin into gorgeous matte perfection.”

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The E.L.F blotting papers that I have tried are the Mattifying Blotting Papers which are $5.00 at www.eyeslipsface.com. Elf hits us with another frugal beauty banger when they combined both of your shine control agents in one cute little sheet. That’s right dolls, a translucent powder infused blotting paper. They also have a unique spongey applicator vs the regular paper sheets.  Though it doesn’t eliminate shine all day, it doesn’t promise to. And they work really well!

Lastly, one of my favorite Translucent powders (tying with NYX for #2) is E.L.F’s High definition powder. #1 all time favorite coming from MAC.High Definition Powder ELF

This is also Kit Candy! For all of my makeup enthusiasts new ready to explore the world of makeup artistry. Spend $6 and get you some of this stuff right now. Well after reading this, of course. Because it’s a translucent powder it’s super versatile and can be used on all clients. I’d recommend that you have some “holy water” handy after you’re done setting your face with any powder (especially translucent powder). And by holy water I mean MAC’s Fix Plus which you would’ve known if you’ve read my most popular review to date!  Do that! But after this.

So yeah, translucent powder is a must have in every kit BUT it’s not a one size fits all product. If you have deeper skin like me and you don’t have a setting spray or finisher handy to bring your face back to life after apply powder products, I suggest that you only apply the product in your Tzone or where ever you experience the most oil throughout the day. That is also the area you’re going to be using your blotting papers on as well.

#3 Go Waterproof it!

No one likes to be Rebecca Raccoon Eyes. Well, maybe if you’re going for a raw grunge-esque result that might tickle your fancy. But for me, it’s a bad day when my mascara moves and runs and smudges my lids (especially my lower lid.) For that problem they have so graciously invented waterproof mascaras and liners!

My absolute favorites are from Benefits Cosmetics:

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The Bad Gal Waterproof Mascara ($19) and Eyeliner ($20) are also kit candy. I know, I dropping gems in this one. Because makeup artists are usually hired for events, and there’s a ton of dancing, crying, and photography at most events, waterproof product is a necessity not an option when it comes to what’s in your kit.

It’s no surprised that one of makeup’s toughest untamed villains is sweat! So having waterproof eye makeup as well as stain blushes and lip products can definitely be the difference between a patti melt and pretty face at the end of a long Summer day.

Well those are the basics doll babies. I hope this help you keep your face fresh and your skin healthy! A few freebies…you may want to go lighter on your regular application on hooter days…whatever lighter means for you. It could mean opt for a BB Cream VS medium coverage. Or Using an SPF powder opposed to a cream product. Either way…on 100 degree days believe me when I say lighter is better! You can also invest in an airbrush machine. Which is actually a really good idea in terms of makeup artistry and personal application perfection. 70% of brides prefer airbrush makeup because of it’s “stay put under stressful conditions” power.

Check out Temptu’s airbrush kits by clicking here or the banner below.

Until next time Lovelies!

The Doll Mob Salutation

The 2 bars that made everyone moody…Remy VS Nicki Rap beef from A to Z

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So I tried not to indulge in the current rap battle hype underway between Young Money’s Nicki Minaj and The Terror Squad’s Remy Ma. Mainly due to the fact the whole entire world is caring enough for everyone. .

As much as I’ve tried to avoid releasing my 2 cents there was recently a “side bird” tweet that no one seems to be talking about that struck a nerve in me. I can’t just start there tho. So here’s the beef from A-Z from the best of my knowledge.

 

Beware There’s a ton of this going on…

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Nicki Minaj and Gucci Mane released a song called “Make Love” (graphic lyrics below) which people speculated was to rapper and Love and Hip Hop star Remy Ma. Though this beef seemed inevitable, Remy Ma did interviews previously where she attempted to squash  any rumors of beef between herself and The barb Queen. In spite of her attempts it was assumed that the following was a direct stab at Remy ma.

Ay yo, ain’t talkin’ housewives, but I’m in the Porsche
First I’ma scorch her, then I’ma torch her
Then I’ma torture her, then I’ma off her
A million dollars for a show, they made their off-er
Go against Nicki, it’s gon’ cost ya
‘Cause now it’s fuck ya, intercourse ya
I rep Queens where they listen to a bunch of Nas
I’m a yes and these bitches is a bunch of nahs
Tryin’ to win a gunfight with a bunch of knives
I win, get off the bench and give a bunch of fives
I don’t see her
Bitch I’m the greatest, no Kendrick and no Sia
I’m the iPhone, you the Nokia
Everybody know you jealous, bitch it’s so clear
Tell them bum ass bitches to play their role
She see my sexy ass every time she scroll
I got it in the can, Dole
Your career gon’ be with Anna Nicole
Witcha dumbass face
She ain’t eatin’ but I swear she got some bum ass taste
Text her man like, “Dawg, how that bum ass taste?”
Pay your rent! And stay in your bum ass place
Oooohhh, oh you the qu-e-e-the queen of this here?
One platinum plaque, album flopped, bitch, where? (bitch, where?)
Hahaha, ahhhhh
I took two bars off just to laugh
You see, silly rabbit, to be the queen of rap
You gotta sell records, you gotta get plaques
S, plural like the S on my chest
Now sit your dumbass down
You got an F on your test.

Lyrics provided by Genius.com

After getting wind of the song.. Feb 25th, Remy Ma ran to the studio and released a 7 minute “hardcore”, tell all type of dis record called “Shether” (Click the link to listen if it’s still available) which was recorded over Nas’ Ether beat.

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Remy broke the internet with Nicki’s piping hot tea. It seemed like every status, post, and picture from any hip hop relevant blog, t.v show, or fan was influenced by Nicki’s implants “dropping” or “popping” as the song alleged. The Terror Squad Rapper described private events between Minaj and her former beaux Meek Mill which Meek must have shared with Remy at one point or another. Of course, men aren’t supposed to run their mouths and tell their business. That has been attributed to females only. However, Meek showed us that millennial men don’t give a f*$# about having female traits.

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The Mayback Music Artist also disclosed that while Nicki was having booty issues, he was denied access to her cookie purse for about 3 months.  Why are we surprised? We’re not! This is the same dude that got with Nicki Minaj by telling her that her boyfriend was cheating on her. I guess the guy code was out the window and/or never learned on “the block”. meekmeekshowedup

The dis track tea didn’t stop flowing there. Remy went on to claim that Nicki had sexual relations with several industry names like Trey Songz, YM CEO Lil Wayne, Gucci Mane, Hot 97 co host Ebro, and label mate Drake..just to name a few. All of which have been collected in a small shady collage below for your viewing pleasure.

 

So yea, if the allegations are any where near true, Ms. Minaj has been booty popping that manufacture hinney all over the industry and it’s no wonder it’s giving her issues. BUT that’s not really our business. It wasn’t really anyone’s business but but a few people are invested in the tall tell of Nicki’s cookie purse. The Game being one of them.

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Mind you, The Game has had a few things to say about Meek Mill over the years. One of the most memorable things he’s posted on social media was that Nicki hasn’t been in a real man’s arms since he let her go. Referring to the Pills & Potions  music video.

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If you’re wondering this feud began about a year ago when The Game’s crew allegedly robbed Sean Kingston of his jewelry, which was soon confirmed by Meek Mills (allegedly). Now The California rapper takes shots at Meek Mills every chance he gets.

 

Trey Songz, also mentioned in the dis track as one of Nicki’s lovers, took to Twitter to respond to the allegations. Which maybe he shouldn’t have because Nicki wasn’t really feeling the response. In all honesty, I believe Shether just had Nicki on edge because there was nothing implicated in Trey Songz response that warranted her attitude.

The Shether track has the “Queen” a little noid.

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Ebro also chimed in to deny allegations of sleeping with Nicki

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To which Papoose, Remy Ma’s right hand and husband replies:

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Dj Funk Flex also added his two cents and seemed to be anti-barb and surprisingly coming for label mate Drake out the blue…

Funk Master Flex

Lawd Have Mercy!

While the world was calling for Nicki Minaj’s response to the most disrespectful distrack of the decade, Nicki parlayed in Paris for fashion week seemingly unbothered on purpose.  The song was then snatched from iTunes, YouTube, and any other platform Nicki could  get to take it down. Remy can also never perform the song or have it played on any radio stations. Nicki implied that the song had been taken down due to Remy not handling the business side of the beef and getting rights to record the song on Nas’ beat. Nas recently put the rumors to rest that he had anything to do with the issue with the dis track proclaiming that he is a true fan of hip hop battles and he wouldn’t have pulled the track.

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I personally believe that Nicki has enough clout and money to put an end to an artist’s shine ESPECIALLY if that shine is glistening of the handle of a tea cup that is filled with Nicki’s business.

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Before the Barb responded (which took a while), Remy Ma was invited to the Wendy Williams show to talk beef (Click on the link to view a clip). I don’t usually do Wendy, but because I was curious as to what started the whole cat rap fight, I tuned in. Remy showed up to the Wendy Williams show dressed for the funeral of a cartoon character which I found to be super petty and amusing.

The rapper basically said that Nicki has been attempting to shade her by stopping her from getting awards, walking red carpets, and getting people to report badly on her album sales et cetera. Yea, if that’s true….I’d be mad too. Not taking sides, just saying.  In “back to back” fashion Remy then went on to release another LEGAL dis track to Nicki minaj called “Another One“.  It wasn’t on the Shether level and many say she could’ve gone without the follow up. But, because the first diss was taken down and basically banned from everywhere…Remy had to find a way to stay in the game. Click the Another one link to hear the 2nd track.

 

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There was a sea of unwanted responses…but fans were truly calling for the Queen B- Lil’ Kim’s (pictured in the middle incase you didn’t recognize her) opinion on the beef. She too had a lyrical feud with Nicki Minaj in or around 2014 stemming from what people were saying was a case of stolen identity..

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Nicki was clearly influenced by Lil’ Kim’s style but for some reason it’s easier to deny it and beef than pay homage. But that’s another post entirely. Anyway, Lil Kim had this to say about the beef and rumor of her join forces with Remy to get back at the Young money Raptress:

“I’m glad you brought that up, because in the media the other day, I had a show and I hate stupid blogs when they try to take my damn situations and clip them,” Lil’ Kim said. “We all know the situation that’s going on with Remy and ol’ girl. That’s their situation and I have nothing to do with that.”

Response found on BET.com

Let’s take a second to crown the Queen for being pretty shady by not even mentioning Nicki’s name.

There was a  90’s rapper who did want in on the beef, and rightfully so.

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Foxy Brown was mentioned in the Shether track and the tea on her was that she had went deaf from untreated gonorrhea. Now, I don’t know how true that is or if it’s even possible. I do know that Foxy is hard of hearing. Obviously, regardless of whether it is holistically true or a half truth  it had Foxy running to the studio. She released her 1.5 minute get back snippet “The Break’s Over” to Remy Ma quicker than Nicki could take her next “unbothered” pic.. Listen to the clip here.

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Remy responded to Foxy’s get back track in which she spoke on Remy’s recent miscarriage by learning sign language and signing the words “no comment” at a press conference. See the shade for yourself here.

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Nicki and Foxy have since been spotted playing bffs.  If you want my unwarranted 2 cents on that situation (which seems to be the theme of this whole beef)… Nicki is just clinging on to anyone who is on her side in this midevil mess.

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The public has been Harsh (capital H & on purpose) when it comes to the self proclaimed queen Barb’s lack of response to Remy’s diss track. There’s also a back story we’re not getting because when Remy referenced Foxy’s hearing disability she said that Nicki was “talking about her to a deaf bih” which says to me there was little something going on behind the scenes.

Nicki Minaj Finally “responds” to the diss track on March 9th with a track called No Frauds which features Drake and Wayne. She also drop 2 other tracks on iTunes which were at 1 , 2 and 4 last time we checked.  Now, No Frauds is a nice song, but it’s not a diss track. We were all a little disappointed that she didn’t go back to the underground , hardcore, hip hop Nicki but hey. She recently responded that she doesn’t do diss tracks she makes hits and disses you one them. W.E you say Nicki.

The fact still remains that Remy came harder than ever and Nicki just wasn’t there for it. She wasn’t trying to battle although Remy’s Shether was in response to Nicki’s verse on the Gucci Mane collab. She reportedly said that the diss in that song was fired toward Iggy Azalea.

 

NOW TO THE PEON THAT MADE ME WRITE THIS ENTIRE BEEF BOOK

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You probably have no clue who this is.

I don’t blame you. Her name is Khia, and she’s the rapper behind the 2002 song “My Neck, My Back”. Was it a hot song? Yea, when I was a freshman in High School and I’m 30 years old now. This has “has-been attempt” written all over it, but let’s entertain the non sense for sake of this entire post being conjured up due to her thirst.

Now, in the picture above, this old bird has on a tee-shirt that says Papoose AND has a picture of Papoose on it.  If you scanned and missed this fact earlier in the post, Papoose is Remy Ma’s husband. Not boyfriend, or even fiance…her husband.Quick history lesson: Remy was sentenced to 8 years in prison for charges of assault, weapons possession and attempted coercion in 2008. In what we wanna know terms, she shot a girl she knew over a coin. Papoose faithfully or otherwise held Remy down during her bid. Now, Khia made a video saying that she keeps being asked what she thought about the rap beef heard around the world. And y’all have to listen to her sling shotTing her cookie purse Papoose’s way to see why it irks me so bad. Get a load of it here.

Ok, I try to stay encouraging and inspirational when it comes to women , because we need hella love with the way society is set up. The issue is that Khia is what is wrong with the world.  1st of all no one asked her for her opinion because she hasn’t been relevant since she trick us into believing someone dared travel from her neck …to her back…. and down to that should be condemned & dusty crack of hers. When you did have a hot song (singular) it wasn’t so lyrical that you were dubbed a Queen, princess, dutchess, mistress,  or otherwise relevant in Hip Hop. Why would anyone care what you think?

AND TO PUBLICLY COME FOR SOMEONE’S HUSBAND.

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She’s definitely a problem. She could’ve attempted to prove her relevance in the game by staying neutral yet giving a “seasoned” female rap artist’s perspective on the battle. She could’ve hopped in the battle and chosen sides. But to catapult your vagina to a married man via social media is a new low even for a bottom of the barrel used to be with one 15 year old hit.

I don’t know if Remy will respond but the people have spoken..and they’re not here for Khia’s thirst.

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More issues than Teen Magazine, right? Well If we’re lucky this thing will die down without anyone else begging to be tagged in it. In conclusion, I’m glad someone challenged Nicki…simply because you don’t get the crown without proving you deserve it. It’s hip hop. The industry has been thriving on battles since it all began. What have I learned in this entire ordeal?

  • The Barb may be the Queen of something but it’s not Hip Hop.
  • Remy may not be the Queen of anything but Petty HOWEVER she is a lyrical beast and
  • Foxy Brown …………………….well she tried
  • The Game is going to come for Meek Mills for everything until he see’s him
  • Khia is what’s wrong with the world and will never regain her relevance through  thirst
  • Regardless of which industry it is…it’s all entertainment. I hope everyone remembers that.

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What were your takeaways from the beef? Are you rooting for anyone? Were you one of the people who prompted Khia’s response? lol

Well, this has been the first Hollywood Tea you’ve sipped with the mob. I hope you’ve had your pinky up!

 

Until Next Time ❤ ❤ ❤

 

Prom 2k16

Every year around this time I am up to my roots in lashes + concealer and clean out of free time. Weddings, proms, graduations, photo shoots, bridal and fashion shows, you name it… it’s being done in mass numbers during the Spring and Summer months. Because these are some of the most photographed events of people’s lives they of course want to look their best and aren’t willing to take the chance or deal with the DIY stress.

Which is where I come in. And where our post for today begins. My weekend was hectic…so hectic that I ashamed to say I barely took any photos of any of my clients  (as if pushing the pic button would’ve made my day so much longer). Anyway, the beauty of doing what you love and loving what you do is that the love is blended with skills and delivers a flawless and happy client.Why is a flawlessly happy client an MUA’s remedy for forgetting or refusing to stop to take pictures? 1 word-SELFIES

That’s right! Client selfies are just as good as testimonials and twice as good with a love not attached.

So, before we see the selfie(s) in question…..Let’s meet our Prom doll!

 

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Noe R.  2k16 Senior in Va Beach, VA.

Noe was a beautiful young lady that who had been looking forward to her prom day since she booked with me. She went with “The Celebrity Doll” service from TiffanyDolls.com new Service Catalog. The great thing about the service catalog is that you can choose any service and customize it to your personal preference. While the Celebrity Doll service featured stacked Strip lashes and an ombre lips Noe wanted a deep contour, a smokey eye, and an otherwise neutral face.

Here’s What we came up with:

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*Insert Heart Eyes Emoji*

Before we get to the dets (and they’re coming). Let’s do a quick side by side of the 1st photo and the after photo….

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The Transformation

Because Noe wanted a heavy contour and because I didn’t want her to look like she had played in mud with her fair skin. I decided to use a few shades to contour starting with the lighter (red brown) shade and blending in a darker brown. I absolutely loveeeee a matte lip (in case you didn’t know) so I opted for a nude matte lip that would last longer while she danced the night away.

The Details

The Face
Applied Graftobian HD Glamour Creme Foundation All over face (including eyelids and neck).

Used MAC pro longwear concealer in NC 25 (Highlight) and NW45(Contour) which was set with NYX Translucent powder. Applied Mineralize Skinfinish in Sunpower (bronzer).BH Cosmetics Contour Palette. A blush from BH Cosmetics followed by Mineralize Skinfinish in Lightscapade(Highlight).

AND of course Holy Water…MAC’s Fix Plus Prep & Prime Fluid

The Lips

NYX lip pencil in Natural (Fill entire lip over exaggerated cupids bow a tad). Filled with a lippie cocktail of NYX Matte Lip Cream in Stockholm & London

The Eyes

Lids: BH Cosmetics 5th Edition Palette & MAC loose pigment in Vanilla in the inner corners
Brows: BH Cosmetics Brow Pro Brow Palette (Black and Brown)
Lashes: Ardell Long Individual Lashes

I was so lucky to have a selfie sufficient client like Noe on such a crazy Saturday!

 

This…..This is why I do it. I do it for the slayy lol AND for text message from my clients at 8am the next morning… like this one

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Nothing better….

So, if you know a Senior in the Hampton Roads Virginia area let them know that there are discounts waiting for them at http://www.TiffanyDolls.comAfter 3

Girl Talk Returns: Ignore him to keep him?

Greetings Doll babies…

 

And Happy Friday!

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It’s been quite some time since we’ve had our girl talk session. It’s almost completely due to my schedule and the fact that there’s simply not enough time in a day. BUT Let’s not dwell, the point is today…we’re putting our heads together to come up with a sea of solutions for a doll in need.

Disclaimer: I am in no way a relationship expert. When submitting your letters to The Doll Mob know that you are going to get the opinions of non licensed, everyday women. If you are in need of professional or medical help I will gladly assist you with finding someone in your area.
Dear Doll Mob,
I am a young woman who has recently turned to online dating to fulfill something that I feel I had been missing in my “situation”. Yes, I am in a situationship and have been for quite some time. 
Recently, I met a guy online who is sweet, successful, attentive, confident and all the other adjectives that describe the perfect guy. We went from chatting online to texting and the occasional phone call (very rarely). I find him to be refreshing and I enjoy our conversations. I understand that it could simply be excitement and scandal of it all that has my hypnotized, it’s just at this point I feel like I deserve to feel something. You don’t know how long I have been longing to get out of the monotonous and uninspired daily routine. 
The last couple of days he has been a little distant. He never ignores me, he’s just slower to respond and not really initiating conversation as he was before. I read other articles online that said if you want to keep a guy’s attention you have to ignore him. I want to talk to him because his conversation was my “something”, but I don’t want to come across as the needy and insecure type. What should I do?
I look forward to your transparency and honesty.
Sincerely,
A Woman In Need

 

Alrighty, This letter grabbed my attention for several reasons. The main heart string striker was her salutation “Sincerely, A woman in Need”. Now…for those who’ve never read a girl talk article(because it has been a while) I’d like to state  on behalf of myself and my dolls that we The Mob reserves the right to keep it all the way 100. . We won’t tolerate any disrespect or bickering, however you will get our entire 2 cents so sayeth the mob.

So let’s start off with the fact that there are 2 issues or points that require attention in your letter. I’ll begin with the one you’re asking about because I legitimately can not stand when I go to a friend for advice about one thing and they start to tend to other parts of my business.

The main question seems to be “should you ignore a guy that you like to get his attention?”  So without all the bush beating I’m going to go ahead and say “Girl……NO!”. I won’t say the articles you read were wrong I’ll just say we’re all grown (or you don’t need to be worried about finding, getting, nor keeping a boy let alone a man) so we don’t have times for games.

Listen, my philosophy is acting only benefits the audience…you can still feel what’s real. So based on that philosophy here’s why you don’t ignore a man to get his attention. The first flaw of this method is that it can and will eventually lead you to pushing the person you like away. If it’s early in the relationship you may want to be a bit unavailable. But no one likes to be rejected and men are creatures of pride and ego (Hell I am too). The last thing you want to do is send them into the arms of a bamboozling bimbo who will be just enough to take his mind off of you (even if momentarily). The second flaw is that it puts women in the mindset that all men are the same and therefore the same “tactics” work on all men. If you go into a relationship like that you’re bound to hit a dead end eventually. The saddest part won’t even be the dead end it would be that you didn’t take the time to enjoy the ride bc you thought you had been down that road before. #MESSAGE

So how do you get his attention? You pay attention to yourself. I repeat TO GET A MAN’S ATTENTION PAY ATTENTION TO YOURSELF. The articles you’ve read are more than likely (hopefully) saying that you want to seem unavailable which is going to give an impression that is the complete opposite of needy.  Not that the key to a mans heart and mind is neglect. To add on to what I assume they are saying by referring to my philosophy “seeming” unavailable may get his attention eventually but it most definitely doesn’t make you feel any better. The truth is and please don’t take offense to this…you are trying not to seem needy because you are..and it’s ok. The only thing wrong with it is that you are relying on a perfect stranger to fulfill this need opposed to looking in the mirror and figuring this thing out.

It’s time to stop looking for a man and find yourself. What do you like to do? What things make you happy? When’s the last time you’ve bought yourself something or gone somewhere that doesn’t have anything to do with pleasing people, taking care of someone or making them like/love you? Take a moment to take a honest look at yourself and refuse to turn away until you see something as beautiful as you are.

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It takes time to sort through our emotions and thoughts. As women we have a constant ever flowing river of ish to conquer emotionally and mentally. BUT the good thing about that  is  If you do it correctly, there will most definitely be times when you just can’t get right to your phone, or you’re too busy too text etc. EQUALLY IMPORTANT: When he does finally come around (which 96% do) you’ll be even more desirable than you were before because you’re in love with you. You’re happy to hear from him but just as happy to hear yourself think if he decided to make an unexpected exit. Do you want to appear carefree? No, you want to take time to work on being the woman you want to be without a man. Take my word for this one, it’s much better to spend your time loving on you. Pretending to be busy yet waiting for him to do the loving for you will leave you impatient and a bit resentful if they aren’t moving at your pace. .

Now that that’s taken care of in it’s entirety.

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ISSUE # 2—->This situationship ish. Honey, listen….if you’ve had conversations with your partner where you’ve expressed your dissatisfaction and nothing has changed…you are no longer a victim. It is our responsibility to protect our happiness and peace of mind and the fact that you’re willing to stay in a situation that you are unhappy with says you need some loving…and not from a 2nd party. Instead of dealing with the issues you’re adding yet another emotional roller coaster to your life just so you can feel your heart beat fast. That may work…but it’s unhealthy.

Another activity you can be working on while figuring out this new guy….is figuring out what you’re even doing with the old guy. This could be why he has fallen back a bit. Maybe he likes you as well but he feels like he’s fighting a losing battle because of your attachment. Only some men would see “taking you from your man” as an effort worthy feat. I dare to say a good guy would want to want a woman who knows what she wants not one who he has to compete for. It may make a man or woman feel “successful” once they’ve gotten their trophy but remember trophies end up on shelves with other trophies.

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In conclusion “A Woman In Need”, The only thing you need is you baby. You need your love, time, and attention. I completely understand your need to fulfill a need but we have to be weary of quick fixes. The only way to get the world to love you and maintain a life worth living  is to fall in love with yourself.

 

Your turn dolls! Should you/Would you ignore a guy to get his attention? Have you tried it and did it work for you?

 

 

Top 5 MAC Lipsticks for Brides

Tis’ the season to get married! Which means there are several brides and bridesmaids looking for the perfect EVERYTHING for the special occasion.  In reverence of the season we’ll be looking at 5 lipsticks from MAC Cosmetics that are wedding worthy and wearable for every skin tone.

Disclaimer: MAC’s collection of lipstick is just 2 short of 200 colors. There are more than enough to choose from if you disagree.

 

SIDENOTE:, you should know…that ALL MAC lippies smell like cake. This is not a review but I thought you should know that whether Matte, Lustre, Gloss, or Shimmer they are yummy and will make the kiss at the alter that much more enjoyable for Mr. Right.

MAC Creme Cup Lipstick

Creme Cup is a soft pinkish nude color lippie that holds the top spot for bridal lipstick picks. It’s subtle, feminine, natural color that can be paired with any looks that range from barely there to daytime drama.

MAC Candy Yum Yum Lipstick

 

Candy Yum Yum is a vivid hot pink color that’s perfect for Spring Summer weddings. If you’re a bride who’s looking to add a “pop of color” to your wedding look it’s possible that considering this lippie first will say you some time.

 

MAC RubyWoo Lipstick

This is one of MAC’s signature red lipsticks. Ruby Woo is a true to red bold and beautiful lipstick that is cross culturally perfect for a wedding day.  If you’re going red and going to MAC …go Ruby Woo.

MAC Sushi Kiss Lipstick

This is the prettiest peach lipstick I’ve ever laid eyes on. Another Spring/Summer bridal banger, this lipstick will compliment any skin tone and pair well with just about any eye look.

 

MAC Instigator Lipstick

This lipstick is a deep wine/berry color and is perfect for the brides who want to add a bit of vamp beauty to their makeup look. It’s sultry, romantic, and perfect for winter/fall brides.

SO if you’re out bridal beauty shopping or will be soon, and you plan to visit a MAC counter try on your favorite. If it’s not quite what you want the artist that’s assisting you can help you find a shade that is warmer, cooler etc.

 

Happy Lipstick Shopping Dolls ❤

Valentines Fly…

Valentines Fly...

 


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