So you’re counting down to the moment that your forever begins with the man of dreams. In my experience you’re either:
A) A nervous wreck; not sure where to begin, what to do, who to call, who to tell first, how to tell them. What colors or themes you’d like, what type of dress you want, etc. etc. or
B) A little too calm; It hasn’t all hit you just yet, you aren’t thinking of planning a wedding, you’d probably much rather head to the courthouse but someone is pushing you down the aisle, and/or you think it’ll all come together in the end.
Now, as a wedding professional it is my duty to let you in on the secret to remaining sane during the most hectic time of your life. Believe it or not Bridezilla’s are born due to the anxiety, pressure, and stress caused when realizing the day you’ve always dreamed of is right around the corner. More often than not, bride take the mindset of “If you want it done right, you have to do it yourself” and they spend more time and energy micro managing than they do making sure they are the bell of their ball. Here’s a few ways to make sure you’re in control of your wedding without becoming they angry bride everyone hates to remember.
#1-Set your budget…..
Very rarely is this the first thought when planning a wedding or any event bc it’s the spending aspect of it that makes it less than fun. But the truth is before you start thinking of what colors, themes, dress style, hair style, venue, invitations ,and blinged out shoes you want, you need to know what you can afford. Your budget will let you know everything from how big or small your event should be to what professionals if any you can afford to hire.
IMPORTANT: Having million dollar dreams on a thousand dollar budget will only lead to headaches, an unhappy wedding party, a stressed out groom to be, and ultimately Bridezilla syndrome. Set a realistic budget and be sure to include the price of service providers such as wedding planners, photographers, stylist, hair stylist, makeup artists, nail techs etc. All too often people budget in things; rentals, dresses, venues, food, and decor and forget about the people who make things happen smoothly. ALSO don’t forget that there is life after your ceremony (starting with the honeymoon if you’re lucky).
#2 -Design your dreams (Vision Boards)
If you ask any wedding, fashion, or photography professional they’ll tell you the same. Vision boards are the window to your event and the star of any successful project. Things often get jumbled in our heads. For example, you think of a purple themed wedding and begin to try to imagine which green hue that perfectly compliments the lilac you’ve chosen. Not happening. Don’t believe me? Try it now. Although we are complex creatures we don’t have color wheels, fabric swatches, and a hue/tone match library in our heads. The best most efficient way anyone can plan an event is making a visual of the details.
This step is truly the birth of your event. It’s the first time you can actually see it all come together (or not), the first time you have something physical to show your friends and family (or not) lol, and it puts you one step ahead of most brides because when you contact your vendors or wedding planner you have everything they need to know in one place. *The first example can be made on any online collage maker-www.picmonkey.com is the first that comes to mind. The 2nd example can be made on Polyvore.
#3 To plan or not to plan…
Decide whether or not you’re in a position to hire a wedding planner and what type of planning you can afford. If you choose the right one, wedding planners can be the Holy Grail of a fabulous event. Not only do you not have to worry about the ins and outs of the wedding, but they usually have a list of preferred vendors that they can trust who offer them discounts! They are the contact between you and the vendors, being sure they are on time, in place and ready when you need them. That means the best wedding you can imagine, at the best rates possible, minus the headache of making it all happen alone.
If you have the time and a really small budget you may opt to plan your own wedding, which is definitely possible even though you’ll need to rally up your closest friends to make this happen without needing a therapy lol.
The most important thing to remember is you are the most beautiful you when you’re happy and well rested. A beautiful wedding is all the rave BUT ONLY if you have a glowing, happy bride that’s sweeter than the cake on the table.
*Focus on being the most beautiful you and the most beautiful event will follow.
Check out my “I DO” boards on Pinterest- http://www.pinterest.com/TheDollMob