Girl Talk Returns: Ignore him to keep him?

Greetings Doll babies…


And Happy Friday!

Friday had a face

It’s been quite some time since we’ve had our girl talk session. It’s almost completely due to my schedule and the fact that there’s simply not enough time in a day. BUT Let’s not dwell, the point is today…we’re putting our heads together to come up with a sea of solutions for a doll in need.

Disclaimer: I am in no way a relationship expert. When submitting your letters to The Doll Mob know that you are going to get the opinions of non licensed, everyday women. If you are in need of professional or medical help I will gladly assist you with finding someone in your area.
Dear Doll Mob,
I am a young woman who has recently turned to online dating to fulfill something that I feel I had been missing in my “situation”. Yes, I am in a situationship and have been for quite some time. 
Recently, I met a guy online who is sweet, successful, attentive, confident and all the other adjectives that describe the perfect guy. We went from chatting online to texting and the occasional phone call (very rarely). I find him to be refreshing and I enjoy our conversations. I understand that it could simply be excitement and scandal of it all that has my hypnotized, it’s just at this point I feel like I deserve to feel something. You don’t know how long I have been longing to get out of the monotonous and uninspired daily routine. 
The last couple of days he has been a little distant. He never ignores me, he’s just slower to respond and not really initiating conversation as he was before. I read other articles online that said if you want to keep a guy’s attention you have to ignore him. I want to talk to him because his conversation was my “something”, but I don’t want to come across as the needy and insecure type. What should I do?
I look forward to your transparency and honesty.
A Woman In Need


Alrighty, This letter grabbed my attention for several reasons. The main heart string striker was her salutation “Sincerely, A woman in Need”. Now…for those who’ve never read a girl talk article(because it has been a while) I’d like to state  on behalf of myself and my dolls that we The Mob reserves the right to keep it all the way 100. . We won’t tolerate any disrespect or bickering, however you will get our entire 2 cents so sayeth the mob.

So let’s start off with the fact that there are 2 issues or points that require attention in your letter. I’ll begin with the one you’re asking about because I legitimately can not stand when I go to a friend for advice about one thing and they start to tend to other parts of my business.

The main question seems to be “should you ignore a guy that you like to get his attention?”  So without all the bush beating I’m going to go ahead and say “Girl……NO!”. I won’t say the articles you read were wrong I’ll just say we’re all grown (or you don’t need to be worried about finding, getting, nor keeping a boy let alone a man) so we don’t have times for games.

Listen, my philosophy is acting only benefits the audience…you can still feel what’s real. So based on that philosophy here’s why you don’t ignore a man to get his attention. The first flaw of this method is that it can and will eventually lead you to pushing the person you like away. If it’s early in the relationship you may want to be a bit unavailable. But no one likes to be rejected and men are creatures of pride and ego (Hell I am too). The last thing you want to do is send them into the arms of a bamboozling bimbo who will be just enough to take his mind off of you (even if momentarily). The second flaw is that it puts women in the mindset that all men are the same and therefore the same “tactics” work on all men. If you go into a relationship like that you’re bound to hit a dead end eventually. The saddest part won’t even be the dead end it would be that you didn’t take the time to enjoy the ride bc you thought you had been down that road before. #MESSAGE

So how do you get his attention? You pay attention to yourself. I repeat TO GET A MAN’S ATTENTION PAY ATTENTION TO YOURSELF. The articles you’ve read are more than likely (hopefully) saying that you want to seem unavailable which is going to give an impression that is the complete opposite of needy.  Not that the key to a mans heart and mind is neglect. To add on to what I assume they are saying by referring to my philosophy “seeming” unavailable may get his attention eventually but it most definitely doesn’t make you feel any better. The truth is and please don’t take offense to this…you are trying not to seem needy because you are..and it’s ok. The only thing wrong with it is that you are relying on a perfect stranger to fulfill this need opposed to looking in the mirror and figuring this thing out.

It’s time to stop looking for a man and find yourself. What do you like to do? What things make you happy? When’s the last time you’ve bought yourself something or gone somewhere that doesn’t have anything to do with pleasing people, taking care of someone or making them like/love you? Take a moment to take a honest look at yourself and refuse to turn away until you see something as beautiful as you are.


It takes time to sort through our emotions and thoughts. As women we have a constant ever flowing river of ish to conquer emotionally and mentally. BUT the good thing about that  is  If you do it correctly, there will most definitely be times when you just can’t get right to your phone, or you’re too busy too text etc. EQUALLY IMPORTANT: When he does finally come around (which 96% do) you’ll be even more desirable than you were before because you’re in love with you. You’re happy to hear from him but just as happy to hear yourself think if he decided to make an unexpected exit. Do you want to appear carefree? No, you want to take time to work on being the woman you want to be without a man. Take my word for this one, it’s much better to spend your time loving on you. Pretending to be busy yet waiting for him to do the loving for you will leave you impatient and a bit resentful if they aren’t moving at your pace. .

Now that that’s taken care of in it’s entirety.

please wait

ISSUE # 2—->This situationship ish. Honey, listen….if you’ve had conversations with your partner where you’ve expressed your dissatisfaction and nothing has changed…you are no longer a victim. It is our responsibility to protect our happiness and peace of mind and the fact that you’re willing to stay in a situation that you are unhappy with says you need some loving…and not from a 2nd party. Instead of dealing with the issues you’re adding yet another emotional roller coaster to your life just so you can feel your heart beat fast. That may work…but it’s unhealthy.

Another activity you can be working on while figuring out this new guy….is figuring out what you’re even doing with the old guy. This could be why he has fallen back a bit. Maybe he likes you as well but he feels like he’s fighting a losing battle because of your attachment. Only some men would see “taking you from your man” as an effort worthy feat. I dare to say a good guy would want to want a woman who knows what she wants not one who he has to compete for. It may make a man or woman feel “successful” once they’ve gotten their trophy but remember trophies end up on shelves with other trophies.


In conclusion “A Woman In Need”, The only thing you need is you baby. You need your love, time, and attention. I completely understand your need to fulfill a need but we have to be weary of quick fixes. The only way to get the world to love you and maintain a life worth living  is to fall in love with yourself.


Your turn dolls! Should you/Would you ignore a guy to get his attention? Have you tried it and did it work for you?



Doll of the Day Recap!!

Good morning Dolls and gents!


Hopefully, the new year is treating you well thus far! I am in overdrive trying to get reorganized with things changing or expanding so rapidly, but not too busy to recognize a few more than pretty women that you should defintiely follow on IG.


@iamKimHill is a real estate mogul who is promised to fill your feed with stylish home decor, real estate tips and more.


@Shylamiles is a writer, producer, director, author, and such an amazing creative spirit! She is undoubted beautiful, but the fact that she is humble and deserving of the success she has realized is even more beautiful n my eyes. Pick up Broken Promises the novel and catch Broken Promises the movie this Spring! We ❤ her!


@iamdjgloss is an award winning dj, writer, mother, and model who is creating her own lane in what some would call a male dominated industry. She is talented, supportive, and not afraid to be  exactly who she is. Follow @iamdjgloss to keep up with her musical modeling journey.

Be sure to follow us on IG for more “more than pretty” role model worthy women OR to be a feauture… @TheDollMob


Doll Of The Day Recap

As a female entrepreneur and business owner, I feel a social responsibility to be the type of role model that society all too often overlooks. The type of woman little girls and teens aspire to be because we are strong, intelligent, supportive and positive in addition to “pretty”.

Society puts so many often unrealistic standards on beauty, success, independence etc. that I thought it to be vital that I use whatever platform I have in order to shine a light on the women who deserve to be labeled role models.

So, Every weekday on the TheDollMob  (INSTAGRAM) Monday-Friday I’ll be featuring women who not only inspire me but whom I feel will inspire the future generation of women. If you are not a follower on IG click the link above or below to DO IT!





She’s TRULY an inspiration because not only is she #health conscience, #active, and amazingly #fit 💪 she is an amazing tatted #mother😍.I struggle in the active area with no children (0👶). She puts me to shame pushing that stroller on her morning run!😒 Soooo Kudos to you beautiful! You #inspire us to DO. #Follow@_fitslife_ to get your fit life & #follow us for more #morethanpretty #bossbabefeatures


She is an #HIV #Aids #Activist #Author#Founder #Philanthropist #Entrepreneurand all around #SuperWoman. We appreciate and admire her transparency bc her story is such an inspiration to other#WomenInBusiness #Follow@iamandreawalker for seeds of strength💪 and. #Follow us for more #morethanpretty#bossbabe features. PS…look for her book “A Beautiful Struggle” on Amazon.


She is a NC MUA and therefore a woman after our own ❤. Beautiful, Supportive, and drawn to positivity😍 How do we know? Because we pay attention👀.#Follow this #beauty and her #beat to get your #cosmetic life. @shielamoore


💋💋💋 She is beautiful, ambitious, supportive, confident and #Curvy. & Our very 1st#DollOfTheDay. 👑 Keep your eyes peeled👀 for this up and coming #plussize #model from FL.


TO be featured: Follow TheDollMob on IG and show us a little love. That’s it! Of course you have to be positive, supportive, and ambitious. You can also tag your cute selfies with our hashtag #TheDollMob

As always, I encourage you to be the kind of woman the world needs..the kind of woman who prides herself on being #MoreThanPretty.

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Girl Talk: Letters to the Mob goes LIVE

Good morning Doll babies,

Just stopped by to say I was talked into getting a Periscope and I’ll be trying to get my nerves right to do my first broadcast. I’ve noticed there isn’t strict criteria for these “live shows” as I witnessed people walking/riding  down the street, brushing their teeth, and playing with their kids, which is less pressure.

I’ll try to have topics for every show! If I do one today it’ll be an intro but here’s a list of the topics I plan to broadcast

  • Get Ready With Me Live
  • Makeup Chat
  • Ask an Artist/Stylist
  • Girl Talk (Letters to the Mob)
  • Hair Stuff


So if you’re on Periscope Follow me and I’ll follow you as well.

Have a good Day!